I can congratulate myself for getting out after only a year of this nonsense. Moving on has been hell, but finding this book has been a huge help in taking the first step in resolving my own fears of sharing life with another person.
I hope that Carter and Sokol write some follow-up books to help those of us who truly want committed relationships but are afraid to realize them.
For the last few years, I've been struggling with wanting a relationship, but never finding one that lasted. I couldn't figure out what's wrong with me! I picked up this book and saw every person I've ever dated in it. More importantly, I saw myself as well.
Until now, I've blamed all of the relationship problems on THEIR fear of commitment. After all, most of the time, I was willing to commit! And the few times I ended relationships, I had "valid" reasons I had to end it. Well, "He's Scared, She's Scared" opened my eyes to MY fear of commitment. I wish the authors had gone into more detail about what to do about those fears. But, I also know that the first step to healing is acknowledging that you have a problem.
I still have a lot of work to do to get out from under the fear and figure out what I really want. But I do know one thing. This book has changed my perspective and my life!