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Falling Leaves: The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter
Adeline Yen Mah

Broadway, 1999 - 304 pages

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Interesting, but a one-sided story

This book is well-written and captivating. The descriptions of turmoil in China seen thru the eyes of a child are interesting. All children are self-centered and feel neglected to some extent, but she makes a strong Cinderella case. However, we read just one side of the story. As she reaches adulthood, we see many signs that "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree": she dumps the university researcher and first husband when their usefulness is spent, buys a new Mercedes on impulse, fights with siblings over the estate, etc. The abused become the abusers.


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Falling Leaves : The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter

If you believe your parents have mistreated you by cutting your allowances and grounding you for a week for "forgetting" about curfew, Adeline Yen Mah's memoir, Falling Leaves, is the autobiography for you to read while sulking in your bedroom mourning over the loss of your social life.

This chronologically organized autobiography is compiled of outrageous events of physical and emotional abuse experienced by Adeline Yen Mah as a child and an adult through people ranging from her stepmother to her first husband. Growing up in China as the youngest illegitimate child in the 1930's, she continuously suffered from the deprivation of a loving family. After her mother・s death, her father re-married a nefarious woman and formed a household where illegitimate children were often abused and their needs disregarded. For example, Adeline was used by her older brother as a :punching bag to vent his frustration,; (p.35). She was only allowed to eat leftovers and she was not permitted to invite friends over. Punishments for violating the family rules went as far as being sent off to an orphanage for two years where her stepmother forbade anyone contact her. She continued on a quest for love from her family throughout the autobiography, however, was continuously rejected and discouraged. As the autobiography progressed, she eventually attended college in the United States. Now the conflict is whether or not she is able to exit the shadows of her younger years after growing up in such a family. Has her past given her with such a weak foundation that she would forever by haunted by the idea that she will never find love or affection?
The main characters in this autobiography include Adeline・s maternal siblings Gregory, Edgar, James, and Lydia, who generally ignored Adeline. Niang, Adeline・s Eurasian stepmother who longed for control within the family by harshly monitoring the actions and choices made often psychically and emotionally abused Adeline. Adeline・s father tended to express admiration towards Adeline at the start, but ceased to do so due to Niang・s intimidating domination and constant ideas of :disciplining; Adeline. Characters such as Adeline・s first husband, Byron, who apparently failed appreciate her also enter occasionally into the story and add to Adeline・s feeling of discouragement for affection.

This autobiography unveiled my eyes to a new world where sources of love, appreciation, belonging, and hope were scarce. However, I think Yen Mah became a bit repetitive in the middle of the autobiography, as she tends to repeats the injustices committed towards her as if to refresh our memory. Apart from this, I recommend this autobiography to anyone who has enjoyed other autobiographies about self hope such as A Child Called .It・, by David Pelzer. Falling Leaves provide insight on values possessed by many Chinese families and how their children were affected by it. I also recommend this to anyone who wishes to gain insight on Chinese history, as it includes events from World War 1 to The Cold War and how society was impacted by it.


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A Beautiful But Sad Story

It is one of my dreams to adopt a baby girl from China. I think it is because of this that I read a lot of stories about unwanted and/or orphaned Asian children. I actually read Chinese Cinderella, a smaller version of this book, before I read Falling Leaves. I prefer Falling Leaves simply because there's more of it. And Chinese Cinderella ends before Adeline grew up and began to believe her life was precious, which very few people had told her during her childhood.
I cried when I read this book. It was not that she was a terribly abused child; she was quite simply unwanted and unloved. On the outside, to an outsider, it wouldn't really look like abuse. But to a little girl, it was devastating. Nobody, with the exception of her aunt, cared about her feelings at all.
The one thing I wanted to do while reading this book was to adopt Adeline and give her all the love and attention and care she was so hungry for.


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an amazing story of her life

This book is well written, as is the children's version called the Chinese Cinderella. It is the true tale of Adeline's life as an unwanted child in a wealthy Chinese family, starting with the arrival of the "wicked stepmother" when she is 5 years old. In children's literature there are two notorious families: the Dursleys of Harry Potter fame, and the parents of Roald Dahl's Matilda. In real life, I have found only one story more puzzling and disturbing than Falling Leaves, and that is Herve Bazin's Vipere au Poing, the story of his youth and his devious, nasty mother. Set against the turbulent times in China and Hong Kong from 1930 to 1990, Adeline describes her youth in various private schools in China, through college and medical school in England, on to her success as an anesthesiologist in California. All her life she struggles to prove her worth, and earn her family's respect and love. She believes that if she can only work hard enough, she can create a loving family around her. She recounts what one must regard as amazing strength of will against her tyrannical parents. Her personal explanations of life in China and Hong Kong are quite interesting, and there is the inspiring aspect of her tale, the victory against such crushing odds. I really enjoyed this book, and did not want to put it down, as I was always hoping the next chapter would relate how she got the recognition she sought. I strongly recommend this book, and the children's version.


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