One of the best books I've ever read

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	• Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't Henry Cloud, John Townsend Zondervan, 1996 - 208 pages average customer review:based on 38 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

personal growth guide

This is a great guide for small-group growth, dealing with childhood and adult wounds, and how to avoid toxic relationships. It is a practical guide that goes further that the late Scott Peck's book, People of the Lie.
I can say it has helped me in my professional life as well.

One of the best books I've ever read

This book is one of the best books I've ever read on why I was attracting unsafe people and how to find safe ones and the importance of evaluating character.

The first story was amazing since I think I dated that very girl Dr. Townsend wrote about. The girl that says one thing and then does another. On the next page, they discuss their concern when college kids tell them they want a Christian spouse who is spiritual, religious, and funny. It concerns them, because when people come for marriage counseling, those aren't the reasons, but rather character issues like listening, working too much, and not being attentive to each other.

The characteristcs of unsafe people next provides a great way to evaluate the people in your life.

Next, they discuss why you are choosing unsafe people. It really cuts to the nitty gritty of your past. They then go through a number of false solutions that a lot of us attempt, including doing too much and giving to others. I know I can be a perfectionist sometimes, causing me to reject potentially safe people, filling the void with unsafe ones.

I really appreciated the next sections pointing out that safe people are everywhere. It says that we can learn OUR unsafe people through our safe people who will tell us.

Finally, the last chapter, Repair or Replace. They discuss how to mend a broken relationship, though those steps have never worked for me. But they sound nice to me.

As a person with many friends in their twenties, I see a lot of people who do not have enough safe people in their lives, causing them to make poor choices. I recommend this book as much as possible to them.

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Safe People

Everyone should read this book to identify safe and unsafe people. I saw myself in the book as an unsafe person. I am working to correct that through God's help.

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