great title... for neurotic partners

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	• Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior Mark Goulston, Philip Goldberg Perigee Trade, 1996 - 208 pages average customer review:based on 30 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Identify behavior errors

This book lists several behavior flaws and offers suggestions to overcome them. The suggestions are vague and do not provide a true process to follow. Basically the book helps you identify the flaws and tells you what would be better behavior. Now go do it........

GOOD DAILY ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT

I read this book every day at breakfast. The quotations are especially good. It's uncanny how often what the authors suggest is helpful during the day.

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great title... for neurotic partners

Honestly, I cannot comment on the book. I just bought it for a neurotic partner who thought it was ok to waste someone's else time.

if you have one shot, just letting them read the title will help...you. Recommended for this purpose.

Others, good luck and best wishes.

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Great for Beginners

This is an excellent book for anyone trying to determine their self-defeating behaviors. My favorite aspect of this book is the quick "Usable Insights" at the end of each mini chapter. For example, Chapter 12 is titled "Focusing on What Your Partner is Doing Wrong." The Usable Insight at the end of this chapter is "If you really want to work on your relationship, watch your partner's efforts, not just your own" (Goulston and Goldberg 52). The authors then provide seven bullets on how you can use this insight in the "Taking Action" section.

Although I enjoyed this book, I only gave it four stars because I think it is somewhat geared towards self-help beginners. If you have read many self-help books of this nature, most of the discussion in this book will be old hat for you. I personally did not find any new insights, but it was a good way to refresh knowledge I learned from previous books. Also, the book does not provide any in depth analysis ever. It breezes through the sections very quickly, and provides more of an overview of the larger problem. If you have a very serious self-defeating behavior, you will want to find a book geared specifically towards that area.

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Procrastination...Envy...Anger...Self-pity...Compulsion....In any of its many forms, self-defeating behavior is the single most common reason that people seek psychotherapy. It is a poison that prevents people from achieving the love, success, and happiness they desire. Get Out of Your Own Way is an antidote, explaining the reasons for self-sabotage by going back to the childhood origins of various behaviors. With anecdotes and usable insights drawn from twenty years of psychiatric clinical practice, Dr. Mark Goulston shares ideas that have helped thousands of patients overcome pain, fear, and confusion-to approach life's challenges with dignity, wisdom, courage, and even humor.

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