This book offers hope and advice for both abuser and abused.

books:


	• The Batterer: A Psychological Profile Donald Dutton, Susan Golant Basic Books, 1997 - 224 pages average customer review:based on 13 reviews view larger image
	for more information click here

highly recommended

This book offers hope and advice for both abuser and abused.

I answered yes to all of the questions on the back and throughout the remainder of this outstanding, brave book. If you are living in an abusive relationship, or know someone who is, please, please read this book! The insights are wise and the advice is practical and hopeful. I am choosing to stay in an abusive relationship but at least I know that I can leave if I have to. I have developed a network of friends and support if he ever hits me again and if and when I decide I have had enough of the violent cycle. I am married to a psychiatrist, an educated and truly kind man but he has a rage problem and I have been the brunt of it for nearly 7 years. This book showed me that it wasn't all in my head, my husband needs help. He is a wounded man with the classic childhood of an abuser. This book makes deep, logical sense and should be read by the millions who suffer needlessly in toxic relationships. God bless you, Donald for writing this courageous book!

for more information click here

Even if you have only been hit once... READ THIS BOOK!

This book didn't save my life.... I did that on my own. But it did make me understand that I wasn't alone. My biggest step was anwering "Yes" to all of the questions on the back cover of this book. I realized, right there, in the middle of the book store, that I was in an abusive relationship... and that it would probably kill me. It took 3 months of careful planning, but I got out. My biggest fear?.. that someone I knew would find out I had been idiot by putting up with the abuse. Truth be told?... Most of my friends had guessed it, BUT they had NO IDEA how to bring it up with me. Domestic violence is the perfect disease. You know you have it, your friends know you have it... but you don't tell a soul, and no one feels comfortable talking to you about it. All the while, you're dying.

If you have ever been scared of your boyfriend, read this book.

for more information click here

for more information click here

Good book for researchers and students of domestic violence

Like the Gottman/Jacobson book, When Men Batter Women, which is a must read along with this book, I used references from Dr. Dutton's book in my thesis. As a survivor of domestic violence and child abuse, for over 20 years, I can certainly relate to the book. I have also been working in the field for quite a few years. I hope Dr. Dutton will be lecturing nearby, because I would love to meet him in person and hear more about updates in his research. Not enough is being done to understand batterers or to figure out the best way to work with them. Instead of people complaining about his book or any other (on batterers), they should appreciate the fact someone has given a darn about this issue. After all, what are you doing? You can find my thesis in my book Absent Hearts, Missing Pieces which is available through Amazon as well. You might find the final chapter a bit controversial though!

for more information click here

The Surreal Mind of the Abuser

A much-needed exposition of the habitual batterer's mind, based on hundreds of real-life cases. This book expels the myth that there is a "typical" abuser. There isn't. Abuse cuts across all professions, social-economic strata, levels of income and education, ethnic and cultural backgrounds, and location.
To embark on our exploration of the abusive mind, we first need to agree on a taxonomy of abusive behaviours. Methodically observing abuse is the surest way of getting to know the perpetrators.

Abusers appear to be suffering from dissociation (multiple personality). At home, they are intimidating and suffocating monsters - outdoors, they are wonderful, caring, giving, and much-admired pillars of the community. Why this duplicity?

It is only partly premeditated and intended to disguise the abuser's acts. More importantly, it reflects the his inner world, where the victims are nothing but two-dimensional representations, objects, devoid of emotions and needs, or mere extensions of his self. Thus, to the abuser's mind, his quarries do not merit humane treatment, nor do they evoke empathy. Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited".

for more information click here

reviews: page 1, 2, 3

What kind of man deliberately hurts the woman he loves? Drawing on his pathbreaking studies of more than seven hundred abusive men, as well as therapy with hundreds more, Dutton paints a dramatic and surprising portrait of the man who assaults his intimate partner.

hot or not? What's your opinion? Write a review and share your thoughts!

recommendations

And You Thought Non-fiction was Boring... Shame On You!
Psychopaths and the Antisocial Personality Disorder
Domestic Abuse&Incest Resources
Paralegal Internship II
Emotion Abuse Resources

psychological

A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future
The Secret Life of Bees
Publication Manual of the American Psychological Association
The Things They Carried
Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness

search for books
batterer, profile, psychological

Impressum / about us