A brilliant guidng force in our confused, high-pressure times

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	• Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child Jim Taylor Hyperion, 2003 - 304 pages average customer review:based on 29 reviews view larger image
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Positive Pushing is just that!

If you're living vicariously through the life of your child- step out of the way. In his book Positive Pushing, Dr. Jim Taylor teaches parents to step back and examine the root of their attitudes towards their child's successes and failures and provides a win-win model for positive encouragement. He teaches parents to equip their children with an internal compass to which they can gauge their own successes and failures, while always keeping focused on giving their personal best.

This book changed the way I parent!

Dr. Jim Taylor does a fabulous job clarifying a parent's role in his book, "Positive Pushing". He gives you a framework to guide decisions about children's activities, schedules and responsiblities. I don't feel the panic to join everything or the guilt about not letting them quit piano lessons. He taught me what is negotiable with my three boys and what isn't. I am more of an in-charge parent. We have a new house rule: "one sport, one music...no more, no less". It has worked beautifully for 3 years now. Everyone is trying new things but they are not overwhelmed because they are trying too many new things and they are not bored because they aren't trying anything new.

Dr. Taylor taught me to own my part of parenting and to let my boys own their part. They are proud of the "excellence" they achieve by always working as hard as they can. The word "perfect" has been removed from our vocabulary. Once you open your eyes to how imperfect everything is...you'll never put that pressure on yourself or children again. Dr. Taylor brought joy back to my parenting and, I hope, to my children's childhood again.

Every parent owes it to themselves to read this book! Thanks Dr. Taylor!

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A resource for young achievers, parents, and educators...

When it comes to literature on young achievers, Dr. Taylor's book stands out from the pack. Positive Pushing brings to light the oftentimes overlooked and misunderstood world of emotions, family dynamics, and external & internal expectations that young achievers face during their school years and beyond.

Taylor cuts to the chase when it comes to examining achievement and happiness, making the necessary distinction between external achievement and achievement that includes the internal experience of joy in the process. In so doing, Taylor details the type of guidance and support he encourages parents to provide in order to ensure their children experience success and happiness simultaneously.

Taylor pulls no punches as he cautions parents to examine their own motives, desires, and expectations. At the same time, he skillfully guides parents on how to navigate the terrain of ensuring their children grow into happy, resilient, confident, and successful adults. Taylor draws from his extensive professional experience as well as from current research in the fields of child development, sports psychology, and other disciplines. He provides examples in the areas of academics, sports, and the arts that every parent will quickly recognize as true-to-life. He even details red flags, along with accompanying advice on ways to respond to them.

Positive Pushing is a resource as practical as it is thought-provoking. It is a must-read for all interested in ensuring that our children are truly happy in their success.

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A brilliant guidng force in our confused, high-pressure times

Positive Pushing speaks to our times and the difficulties parents face when determining how much or how little to push their children to achieve success in life. We all want to motivate our kids to succeed in life, but how much is too much? When do we push and when do we back off? Dr. Taylor, through examples, research, and his own personal wisdom, walks this delicate line, showing the pitfalls and dangers of both sides, and leads us to creating a healthy, balanced and purposeful life for our young ones. In the highly competitive world we live in today, no home with children should be without this important work on their bookshelf.

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Pushy parents have gotten a bad rap, says psychologist and achievementcoach Jim Taylor. In Positive Pushing, Taylor contrasts the old-stylepushing of parents overinvested in their kid's report cards and soccer scoreswith the positive pushing of parents who invite children to gain joy from andmastery in their accomplishments. "Success without happiness is not success atall," he explains.In building a model of successful achievers, Taylor skewers the self-esteemmovement for protecting kids from disappointment and mistakes--the veryexperiences that build sturdy self-regard. He urges parents to separate theirneeds from their children's. His marching orders are clear and compelling: guidekids to discover a passion; express love apart from achievement; create a humanbeing, not a "human doing"; use boundaries to construct a safe harbor; anddemand accountability. Most important, put kids in charge by teaching them thatthe results they produce depend on their efforts and actions. Taylor describesred-flag warnings to keep parents on course and offers smart questions forhelping kids command their achievements, asking, for example, "Why do you wantto do this?" and "What would make this a really great experience for you?"At times, Taylor's unique approach is undercut by a tendency to quote othersources. Still, his own fresh and insightful words will inspire every parent whoreads this book. --Barbara Mackoff

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