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Beside Ourselves: Our Hidden Personality in Everyday Life
Naomi L. Quenk

Davies-Black Publishing, 1993 - 304 pages

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An excellent (and necessary) follow up for MBTI lovers

Until I began reading Beside Ourselves, I had really only thought of the Myers-Briggs types as defined by the dominant functions. In other words: being an ENTP, I thought that my personality was dictated and defined by extraverted intuition (my dominant function). After reading Quenk's insightful work, however, I realized that my actions are equally a result of my inferior function (introverted sensing).

For me, Beside Ourselves is a guide to recognizing the importance of our "hidden personalities" and recognizing why we can act in ways that seem foreign even to ourselves when "in the grip" of our inferior functions, as Quenk puts it. This book shows that there is (obviously) value to accepting and understanding the "dark side" of our personalities, and that true equilibrium can usually be reached when we learn to deal with and even embrace the "eruptions" of our hidden inferior functions.

In my opinion, grasping the concepts found in this book will require that the reader has an understanding of personality type as defined by Jung, Keirsey, Myers-Briggs, etc. In order to understand the hidden personality, or inferior function, readers should have a strong understanding of the dominant function, which is essentially the personality we feel best describes us under "normal" circumstances. Highly recommended!


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Great overview

I am not a psychology or mental health professional, but I found this book fascinating. It uses enough theory to be credible, but didn't get me lost in terminology or assumptions. Not only did I find this book to be beneficial for understanding myself, but as a business consultant I find it a great tool for helping organizations understand their personalities.









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Bridging the Gap

This book is super! Here, Naomi Quenk bridges the gap between Jung's psychology of the shadow, "Keirsey's" temperament, and MBTI.

While not for the novice (some of the themes are contextually difficult to understand the first read through), this book offers startling insight into how MBTI and Jungian psychology play into our own (and others) personality makeup.

The focus is, of course, what happens to us when we are at our worst - when we are "beside ourselves". That is, when our least developed aspect of personality comes out full force - much like an 8 year olds temper tantrum.

While one would expect to see remarkable similarities between people "in the grip" of their least experienced emotional state, Naomi Quenk gives us both insightful, scientiic, and experincial data to show that personalities express their least developed parts in vastly dissimilar ways.

This is yet another book which I believe shoud be "required reading" for anyone looking to get a better view of personality, temperament, MBTI, and character. Of course I will always refer people to Keirsey's work for the basic principles, along with "Games personalities play" (authors name escapes me). All of these offer a very good view of how the interactions of personalities play out in everyday life.

Naomi Quenk's book is superb. In the appendix, she offers selected quotations by Jung (on which a preponderance of her work is based it seems). This book is well worth your money! I thouroughly enjoyed it.

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Excellent book on the nature of the inferior functions

This book explains the nature of the eight functions in their inferior roles when they're exerting an uncharacteristic influence on a person. It briefly summarizes the nature of the functions when they're in the dominant role for purposes of contrast, but that's not the focus of the book. This is to my knowledge the definitive book on the nature of the inferior functions, and together with Lenore Thomson's "Personality Type" which deals with functions in their dominant role, it covers the most important aspects of personality theory. If you're new to personality theory, I recommend reading Lenore Thomson's book before this one. They're both roughly the same quality (excellent), but knowing the nature of the inferior functions isn't as urgent as knowing the nature of the dominant functions. These two books are a must read for anyone interested in personality theory. Naomi L. Quenk (the author) is INFP. I am INTP.


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Type study: solidifying the basics, and beyond

MBTI is becoming everyday more popular, more of a tool for business. Also, it is more and more misused as people settle for the quick fix approach of the system, the labelling of people and an expected (or rather hoped for) predictability of people's attitudes and reactions. Some of us amateurs understand that this is not a labelling tool, but a sophisticated tool to understand some of the aspects of human thought process; and that it is not easy to always assert the psychological type of the person that we are dealing with. Naomi Quenck offers us another way to look at the role of type in our lives, by looking at the obscure side of psychological type, the side that "generalists" gloss over pretending that we are all great and beautiful. We are not. She clearly explains that under grip experience, or Jungian shadow as you might have it, the negative side of our personalities can act up. The understanding of this dark side of course helps us in our individuation process. And also help us in understanding some of the reasons that bring our loved ones into trouble, perhaps allowing us to help them more effectively without any of the sentimental language that we find in so many "help and self help" books. Also we can use the examination of grip experiences to ... the true type of the people that surround us and for whom we cannot get a clear idea of their actual type, be it due to their secretiveness, their need to conform to society's norms or any other reason. Grip experiences do not lie. It is to the credit of Naomi Quenck to have written a book that does not sugar coat what type is about, yet of easy access by its organization and good redaction.


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