Rabey's insight into the attitudes and habits of both men and women is both reassuring and unsettling. It's refreshing to read an author who understands what men & women go through - but disturbing that she seems to know us almost too well! She calls us all to the carpet on the true motives behind much of what we consider "innocent" behavior, shooting straight without being too "preachy".
Fans of Dr. Laura will find this work a similar call for accountability in an age of relative mores and sexual abandon. Far from leaving the reader feeling shamed and defeated, the ultimate impact of "The Snare" is to open our eyes to the reality of sexual intimacy, it's beauty, it's purpose, and it's power.
High explosives are a helpful invention, serving many useful purposes - but you wouldn't want to mis-handle them. Ms. Rabey points out that sexual intimacy, like dynamite, can be dangerous when used in the wrong way.