Do contrasts help?No.
My father struck me once.I deserved it.I remember why and it was so worth it.I learned my lesson and really needed that lesson.
My mother stuck me once.I didn't deserve it.She caught me reading a book.But it was assigned by Father Hennigan.She stopped. Hurt -- both her hand and heart.My elbow had hurt her palm.My pronouncement of "Freud" to correct her Frewd.
I have struck daughter - once.There will never be forgiveness from eithergiver or receiver.Daughters should not insult their mothers.True anger happens.
The shock of it -- such action reactionInjury to a free spirit that sought to do injury.Freedom is not free.This sharp memory does not dull love.
A father can really loveChildren can really be loved.
Maybe this is not said often enough.