A Must-Read for Anyone in the Dating Scene

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	• When He's Only Into Himself ...: A Memoir & Guide to Understanding a Narcissist Ella Scott AuthorHouse, 2007 - 108 pages average customer review:based on 6 reviews view larger image
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Thank you, Ella

I read this book not knowing what to expect. I have been married to a narcissist for four years and felt very alone in my experience. After reading this book I know there are other people who have suffered the day to day battles of being in a relationship like this. I encourage people to read this book because it helps to realize that we shouldn't take other peoples issues personally.

A Must-Read for Anyone in the Dating Scene

This is a must-read for anyone trying to find a mate in today's increasingly self-absorbed society. I had no idea selfish/egotistical behavior could get so out of control in a person. Everyone needs to understand what narcissism is and how it can prohibit any attempt at forming a healthy relationship with someone who suffers from it. This book is a quick and easy read, providing real-life examples so the reader can quickly understand the true meaning of narcissism and how it impacts a relationship.

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Ella's Memoir is a very relatable!

Ella's Memoir is a very relatable! I felt connected to her story and found myself feeling her experiences as my own. She is a strong woman and gives a look into a couple's private world when this is a very common type of relationship which typically stays hidden. I commend Ella for her bravery and for taking control of her life! Thanks for sharing, it has helped me!!!

Relatable!

I think that this book is definitely worth reading if you feel as though you might be in a relationship with a narcissist, or if you are in a happy relationship, but have struggled with this sort of thing in the past. There is no doubt that someone can spend thousands on mental health work with a therapist, but sometimes it is just comforting to know that others have been in your situation. That may be all someone needs to recognize this behavior and move on. Some people may just be trapped in constant narcissistic relationships while others may have experienced one or two, and the accounts can help a person realize that it is not difficult to get involved (because narcissists tend to be charming) but it is hard to get out!
The art on the cover of the book is beautiful, I put this one on my coffee table.

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Awareness of the pernicious epidemy of pathological narcissism has been steadily growing over the last decade and has resulted in a prodigious and copious output of self-help guides,textbooks,and personal memories. Still,in all this cornucopia,it is difficult to find something akin to Ella's work:part textbook,part self-help tome,part personal and painful memoir. Narcissists are an elusive breed. They are shape-shifters and the nature of the disorder renders them alien,a sub-species of cunning artificial intelligence. Their ability to mimic human emotions is unsuprpassed,their charm sometimes irresistible,and their thespian skills unequalled. Narcissists defy,therefore,well-intentioned compilations of warning signs and batteries of psychological diagnostic tests. There is scarcely anything more painful than self-delusion. The narcissist is a cardboard cutout,the mere projection of a false self,unable to love,empathize,get intimate,or commit. Loving the narcissist is an exercise in protracted futility that invariably ends in heartbreak. What you see is never what you get. The narcissist is a drug addict. His psychological survival as a coherent,functional whole depends on the attention he garners(often,coerces)from others. He is a singleminded,single-purpose automaton. Behind the elaborate facade of these Potemkin humans lurks the void. The only way to effectively defend against a narcissist is to learn from the harrowing experiences of those who fell prey to the narcissist's advances and were subsequently victimized by him(or,more rarely,her).The emerging genre of victim lit is seriously enhanced by Ella's contribution. She has gone to great lengths to acquaint herself with the latest scholarly literature and to scrutinize her own encounters with narcissists with brutal honesty. The result is a compelling narrative:the detailed anatomy of two failed relationships with narcissistic men sagely set in the framework of the most current knowledge about the disorder. Makes for a riveting tour de force of the tortured landscapes of the la-la lands of malignant self-love. SamVaknin,author of"Malignant Self-love-Narcissism Revisited"

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