I'm One of Those Parents, and I want to be OK too!

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	• I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works Dale Atkins, 2004 - 336 pages average customer review:based on 6 reviews view larger image
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highly recommended

Relationships Can Improve!

Despite your adult age, are your parents still driving you crazy? Dr. Atkins' can help! With engaging wit, she shares wisdom mined from years of experience helping people improve their relationships. Dr. Atkins helps us see and claim the power we have to make changes in ourselves that inevitably alter our relationships with parents. Her discussion of family dynamics comes to life through the many stories she shares. Dr. Atkins guides the reader through specific practices that will improve not only one's ability to deal with parents, but other significant relationships as well. If you are serious about improving your relationship with your parents, or with your adult children, this is the book to read.

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Got Parents? Read This!

For anyone with parents -- living or passed on -- this book is a must read. It will make you laugh, it will make you cry but
most of all .. it will make understand that you are not alone.
Your issues - good and bad - are not solely yours. Everyone
has parental issues and Dr. Atkins shows us how to live and love
our way through them! Not riddled with psychological mumbo jumbo Dr. Atkins speaks to the heart of the matter. From being
a child with parents to an adult parenting your parents, I'm OK guides you through survival! Beautifully written and the type of book that you refer back to often throughout your daily life.

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I'm One of Those Parents, and I want to be OK too!

I predict this book will become one of the classic self-help best sellers, and it should! Dr. Atkins writes from years of expertise in counseling young (and not-so-young) adults who are looking for ways to improve their relationships with their parents. Not "bad, awful, terrible" parents, but mothers and/or fathers who sometimes intrude, impose, ignore, invade, and/or may be insensitive to (or unaware of!) some of the needs, wishes, interests, and/or opinions of their adult children. The book is filled with a wide range of parent - adult child issues that will ring many familiar bells for probably most of us. Dr. Atkins' approach is articulate, optimistic, and practical, and is fun to read. I was sure she was writing about my own parents in several chapters, and I wish I had had access to these ideas years ago, instead of just rolling my eyes, silently mumbling and grumbling, planning visits carefully, censoring how much of my own life I shared with them. And they were actually pretty darn good parents - we just couldn't communicate about a lot of "stuff" from their generation to mine. After reading Dr. Atkins's book, I ordered a copy for my adult daughter! She's reading it now. Gulp!

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A decent enough read

This is a good read for grown-ups in setting boundaries with their parents. Also pretty easy to get through. However, my caution here is that it is written in the US, it's a very monocultural book, and therefore might not be for cultures where parents and grown up children are close and spend lots of time together. There are many psychologists and non-professionals alike in the US who would see this as codependence or dysfunction of some sort. Or whatever.

Hope someone can write a book soon about having a close relationship with your parents while having breathing space and room to be an adult in your own right, in cultures where it's perfectly acceptable to still be living with your parents at 30 or 40. And in cultures where grandparents and elders are very important.

I guess it's time for someone from one of those cultures to write a book on that topic! Will someone please step up to the plate?

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Dr. Atkins Gets It

I recently finished Dr. Dale Atkin's 'Sanity Savers' and found it so helpful I had to see what else she had written. First of all I found that Dr. Atkins is a prolific writer, but after happening upon "I'm OK You're My Parents: How To Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works," I am convinced she is not only a talented professional but a wise woman who understands that true interpersonal intimacy is not only good for one's mental health but physical heath as well. I, once again as after reading "Sanity Savers," came away with a deep appreciation of the depth of her knowledge about how familial relations actually work including all the love, ambivalence, joy, sorrow, anger and remorse that are contained within them. I lent it to a friend who called me to say the book opened her eyes in the same way it did mine. Thank you Dr. Atkins from both of us.

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A guilt-free guide for adults seeking more satisfying relationships with their parents

In a recent study, half of all Americans rated their relationship with at least one parent as either ?poor? or ?terrible,? and more than a third felt this way about both parents. As life expectancy continues to rise and the parent-child relationship extends further into adulthood, this problem is becoming more prevalent than ever. Now, psychologist Dale Atkins presents a step-by-step plan for adults trying to come to terms with parents who are only human?before it is too late.

In I?m OK, You?re My Parents, Atkins applies the same intelligent, no-nonsense approach that?s made her a frequent guest on top-rated TV shows. She urges a restructuring of the relationships between adults and their aging parents and gives practical, specific advice on how to exorcise the demons of anger and resentment, untangle financial arrangements that cause stress and feelings of powerlessness, set limits on your parents? demands for time and attention, turn a spouse or friends into a powerful resource, overcome your own resistance to change, and discover the redemptive power of humor.

This book draws on Atkins?s twenty-five years of experience as a relationship expert to present a comprehensive guide to repairing difficult relationships, gaining control, and building a life that you and your parents can live with for years to come.

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