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so helpful 
This book is well-written, in an easy to understand manner, and is so incredibly insightful and helpful I can hardly believe it. It identifies exact problems I have been having with my boyfriend but never knew what was actually wrong. It also has fabulous suggestions for help. This is a great book.
Finally...The Truth About Men By a Man 
This book was great. I finally realized things that I never knew I was doing wrong as well as finding out about how men thisnk. It's like having a cheat sheet on men. It helped me discover the 4 most important things men are slooking for in a relationship. It also ashared things that men would never come out and tell us. I enjoyed evey chapter with the exception about the sex chapter...but it was written by a man... Obviously the author thinks that everyone in the world who is going to have a successful marriage must have sex first and there are still people in the world who eith don't do that or don't buy that it's o.k. Other than that narrow minded view the author seemed right on point.
More helpful than most.... 
I found the first half of the book very very helpful. Most relationship books aren't written by a man on a man's perspective on relationships for women (at least not in this way). I found it very interesting understanding how men view their relationships with women, though the men that Dr. Weinberg works with or uses as examples in his book seem to be confused about male identity and masculinity. I don't think the theories in this book apply to all men. I don't think men in general rely on gut instincts and are unable to articulate their emotions about why they can't commit (I know many that can).
I was disappointed because I bought this book based on the 5 star reviews. Unfortunately, I found the book a little too value based and not objective enough for me. I think every woman should find Dr. Weinberg's four theories about men's basic needs in a relationship very useful (I did), but the chapters after this made me put the book down. I hope there aren't any women that by into the chapter about sex (as soon as possible) and how it affects committment, intimacy or whatever (there are so many opinions about sex, which mostly depends on a person's values, morals, and religion and I found the chapter too biased and flawed.)
I appreciate the review from the man that wrote "don't buy into it ladies . . ." (re: the book in general). Read his review before you buy this book; I didn't.
Makes Sense
This book makes sense. It tells you the 4 reasons a man will commit that women often aren't aware of. Also, it discusses how to argue, although the book, "The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert" covers is best! However, this book is good at explaining why men don't/do commit, based off his research. Written for the woman's perspective. Much better than "The Rules"! Gave me confidence by realizing men also want commitment.
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Dr. George Weinberg has been a therapist for over twenty-five years. In that time, he has worked with a great range of men, and he has discovered that deep down, men actually want commitment, love, and permanence every bit as much as women do. Over the years, his patients -- even those who have had a string of failed relationships -- have expressed deep desires for permanent, monogamous mariages. So why do they behave as if they don't? And what can a woman who wants a relationship do to help her man commit? While other therapists tend to be students of women, Dr. Weinberg is a student of men. From childhood, most men have been taught to be strong and silent, never to show weakness. They've been discouraged from talking about their feelings, so they never learned the skill. Now, most are on a quest for the ready-made perfect woman. They feel that, in relationships, things can't be worked out. When the slightest thing goes wrong, it seems easier to bolt than to talk. In engaging prose filled with anecdotes we all can relate to, Dr.Weinberg unveils the psyche of men to show the real insecurities that lurk there. Other books like The Rules and Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus have played right into men's fears -- by accepting the old myth and telling women that their job is to ""overcome"" men's fear of commitment. As Dr.Weinberg explains, this is exactly the wrong thing to do. Men have a powerful radar that tells them to run away when any strategy is being used on them. He explains why games of any kind -- playing hard to get, making a man jealous -- will only push a man further from commitment. And he gives women four simple keys to understanding their man's real needs and helping them move toward relationships. It is easy to scare a man, but it is also easy to capture his love without playing games. Why Men Won't Commit shows women how to enter places where her man has not allowed any other woman to go and, if it's right, to stay there in a loving, committed relationship.
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